This week, I completed an online assessment of my listening and communication skills. I felt as though I was quite confident and honest with my responses and we pleased with the self-assessment. I asked my husband and teenage son to complete the same assessments about me, and while their scores were different, I know they answered as honestly as each of them could which led to results that I felt described me more accurately. According to my own assessment, I was in the action-oriented section which described me as being more direct as well as more professional but also more fierce to some. The assessments from my husband and son both yielded the result of being people-oriented. They both see me as considerate, overly trusting, and concerned for others. I feel as though the assessment from my husband and son are truly who I am in my daily life. I like to think of myself as more stern or direct but I really am kind and try to please as well as trust everyone, even if it can be detrimental to myself.
Taking the time to get to know someone before forming any ideas or judgements is very important. Everyone has a background and story to share, so it is important to offer each person this honor and respect. Formulating a notion first is truly unfair and can cause you to miss out on an opportunity. I have done this in the past and I truly regretted it. When I first met a now dear friend to me, I thought she and I would have zero in common for superficial reasons but a few months later and me taking the time to talk and get to know her, I learned we had a lot in common. It was truly unfair for me to do that to someone and I would not want someone to do that to me. Since I am quite guarded and introverted to those who I do not know, I often come across as someone who does not like someone and I miss out on valuable time with friends. It has taken me months to a year before forming a true friendship and then I usually have to more which is always so saddening. I hope to learn to open up easier with people so they do not judge me as not liking them so I can have more time with friends.
Sarah,
ReplyDeleteIt is so important to get to know someone before passing judgement. I find myself, being very observant around people I do not know. I slowly warm up, but I survey the environment and I am very selective on who I will communicate with. Just an you, I find myself missing out on opportunities to form friendship.
Alecia,
DeleteYes, I try to be more open and let people speak before I attempt to form an idea of who he/she is. I would have missed out on some great friends if I had only taken the person for face value. I am glad that we are both aware of this trait with us in the hopes that we can hopefully form better friendships in the future.
Hi Sarah,
ReplyDeleteI love how you state to get to know someone before forming any ideas or judgements. Nobody will truly ever understand what another person is going through even if they have been through it themselves. I have learned to just let things roll off my shoulders and not let the little things bother me adn respect people for who they are.
Tracy