With my experience of working in a predominantly male field while serving in the United States Army, I was often stereotyped as a "girl" and the ideas of me being weak and emotional. Often times I would hear others telling someone to pick something up for me but I would pull my weight and lift the heavy pieces of equipment like everyone else. I would strive to be as good or even better than my male counterparts when it came to doing push-up and sit-ups. I refused to be seen as weak or less than someone else simply because of my gender.
Reflecting on the ideas of microagressions, it is very important to note the power your words have. While the comment may seem harmless, there is real power behind them and it is important to consider the full ramifications of these words. Also, our prejudices and stereotypes feed into these microagressions, so it is vital for a person to be aware of these as to ensure that harm is not caused by comments that can come from using personal ideas or beliefs when speaking with others.
Sarah,
ReplyDeleteIn the military, we are challenged to push ourselves past limits and excel to excellence. Soldiers, both men and women, are expected to work as a team, or a unit, to complete a mission. Separating the civilian expectation that men are supposed to be gentlemen to all women from military expectations that all soldiers are equally capable, may be challenging for some and inadvertently develop into a bias towards fellow female soldiers. This bias is hard to overcome, so many times women are pushed to prove themselves even more. Thank you for your service, Sarah!
Wishing you well,
Donna
Donna,
DeleteYes, it can be difficult to prove yourself over and over again due to the idea that we are all equal. While I did not get treated too unfairly, it was quite clear at times there was a difference between me and some male counterparts. While I know each and everyone of them would have given their life for me and I would have done the same without a thought, it was still important for me to always operate on the same level as the males I worked with.
First and foremost, thank you, Sarah, for your service!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that our words have power and we have to be careful of what we say and the intentions behind our words. Plus, we need to be mindful of what we say when others are around because the intended audience may not be the only ones listening.
Trisha,
DeleteYes, it is very important to understand and be aware of the full audience when discussing matters. While it may seem innocent or commonplace to you, it could be quite detrimental to someone else.